The Crafty Samaritan

My name is Richa Gupta and I have seen 37 summers this year. I am a post graduate   (B.Sc., Med) and I have taught for some time in DAV school. I used to be a ‘computer professional’ and I am a registered acupressure therapist too. But I am none of these things right now. I see myself as a housewife, a passionate crafter (read professional crafter please!) and a loud animal rights activist (yes really loud in the animal rights circuit so beware J). I am married to Olive Green (read proud wife of an Indian Army Officer) and a mom to two little brats aged 7 & 5. These are the few things that define me right now.

What makes me feel pretty? I believe it is not looks that make you look pretty. God gifted me with a compassionate soul and that is what makes me feel pretty.

I feel happy when I am around nature. Being around my family and staying together is also something that makes me extremely happy, as being an army wife this is quite rare for me. Crafting is my second love (yep the first is my husband) so trying out new techniques with different mediums be it paper, clay etc to create something pretty makes me happy too. To distress I play with colors. No, not paint ball but actual painting on a blank media.

Do I want to change anything? I love my originality (yes I have my own original style of dressing up!) but the one thing I really want to change about myself is the way I don’t let go of memories. I am not easy on forgive and forget and move on. I tend to cling to the past but I hope I can teach myself to let go. 

My first life-altering event was the death of my father. My mother was still a typical housewife, I was studying for entrance exams for MBBS and my younger brother was in the 10th standard. We were not prepared for this incident, emotionally or even financially. My mother was an introvert but for us she made herself strong and became a mom-with-a-job, fulfilling our needs and never ever made us feel the absence of our dad. I shelved my dream to be a doctor and took up tuitions and part time job to support my mother’s income. My mother’s courageous act, her attitude towards life taught me to be more confident and accept things as they come. May be I will not be able to win all the battles destined ahead but I have immense courage to face new challenges and i am unafraid of the unseen situations now.

The other incident I can never forget is the day my family survived a terrorist attack. I had to make my kids understand what to do if their parents did not survive the incident. I realized then the uncertainty of life and how much time we waste being unhappy about little things. We should just live up every moment and make good memories to leave behind. I also deleted the two words panic and impossible from my dictionary.

When I see myself today I see a courageous confident lady who is leading a happy life with her family, but to reach this place I struggled a lot. I always wanted to be a doctor, but gave up due to financial constraints. I met my husband as a classmate and we became very good friends quickly. But an inter-caste marriage is a serious business in India and we had our share of struggle when we tried to convince our families. Post-marriage I had to adjust a lot as I was always a free spirited bubbly person but after marriage I had to transform myself 360 degree and become a dutiful docile daughter-in-law. Due to his job in the army, we lived in different cities and sometimes we met for very short durations only a few times in a year. The last few years have been good to me as we have been together.

A Kite, a barn Owl, one rare Himalayan Squirrel, a baby Monkey, Himalayan Myna, Fischer's lovebird, doves, ducklings, indigree pups, Labradors, a Beagle, Rabbits and Budgies. These are a few animals I have rescued and fostered to be either re-homed or released.

My dream is to have my own studio one day where I can teach the less privileged and help them to stand on their feet. I also wish I could set up a rehabilitation centre for the needy animals and birds. I will keep trying until I succeed as someone said:

Kaamyabi Miley Na Miley Ye To Kismat Ki Baat Hai …

Par Hum Koshish Bhi Na Karein Ye To Galat Baat Hai...